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September 2019 Newsletter
Lee Chaix McDonough
September has always been one of my favorite months. There’s something about it that evokes a sense of wonder and hope in me, and each year I feel the desire to start anew. I call it the “September shift.”
Apparently, I’m not alone in this. Author and podcast host Gretchen Rubin has long called September “the other January,” recognizing it as an ideal time to set new goals and begin new routines.
The timing makes sense. After all, September signals children returning to school, the end of many a fiscal year, and the start of fall. What better time to throw out our old ways in favor of new, better ones?
But before we rush into a full-on life makeover, I’d like to propose a different approach to goal-setting. What if, instead of listing all the things we want to do, we start with focusing on all the things we want to be?
This approach runs counter to how many of us have approached goal-setting and life planning in the past. In our society, we often equate what we do with who we are, and that tendency starts when we’re young.
Think about it – how many times do we adults ask children, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” But what we’re really asking is, “What do you want to DO when you grow up?” We’re conditioned to equate doing with being, and to define ourselves by what we do or what we produce.
Certainly, the work you do in the world is a part of who you are – but it doesn’t have to represent all of you. You’re not limited to the roles you play. You’re also the values and principles you hold dear. You’re the memories and experiences you cherish. You’re more than mere words can describe, and then some. Simply put, you are.
When we shift our framework from doing to being, we recognize that we are enough, just as we are. Our value is not defined by how many items we check off our to-do lists, or whether we get that promotion at work. Instead, we can embrace the radical notion that our existence is sufficient justification for our worthiness.
So if you’re anything like me, and you feel that September impulse to make yourself over and start again, I challenge you (and myself) to do something truly new. Instead of jotting down resolutions or desired achievements, make a list of your top five core values, the concepts around which you want to build your life.
If this feels vague or difficult, try this: Imagine your favorite person in the world is telling a stranger all about you. How would you want to be described? What stories would you want this person to share about you? How would you want this stranger to remember you? The answers will likely indicate what matters most to you.
And if you still need a little guidance, then James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits (an excellent book!), has a list of core values that might inspire you.
Then, once you’re clear on your core values, go ahead and set those goals and create those routines. The difference is that now you’re doing so not from a place of lack or self-judgment, but rather from a place of alignment and purpose.
Talk about a September shift.
Tuesday, September 3rd 5:30 - 7:00 p.m. Dinner at the Chelsea
Many Roles, Many Relationships
Enjoy dinner and our engaging guest speaker Shemeka Kemp. A military spouse, accomplished social worker and great Mom, Shemeka is the Store Director of the New Bern Target, where she serves as a mentor, confidant, and role model for guests, along with 120 employees and her community.
She sits on the board of directors for the local Twin Rivers YMCA and the board of directors for her child’s private school, Epiphany School of Global Studies. Shemeka is also a member of the Theta Eta Omega chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Inc. here in New Bern.
Shemeka will share how the many roles in her life work to strengthen her and help her grow professionally. These formative relationships become bridges into our communities.
Wednesday, September 18th 11:30 a.m. - 1:00 p.m. Lunch at the NBG&CC
A Voice for Change
Please join us for lunch as we welcome Tharesa Lee of Intentional Excellence Coaching, a natural-born leader serving our community.
“I am a proud resident of New Bern,” she said in an interview for the Sun Journal's 52 Faces of Community, “I am a social entrepreneur—I do all the things I do out of what I believe to be servant leadership."
Tharesa serves on various boards and committees in New Bern to include the New Bern Redevelopment Commission; the United Way of NC; FEMA Emergency Solutions Grant; African American Signs Committee; Swiss Bear Economic Opportunity; Arts to End Genocide and the #GivingTuesday Global/Local Initiative ... to name just a few.
Tharese will share the importance of being intentional in creating and leading a shared focus amongst team members and community organizations. She will provide several takeaways that CWF members can use immediately in their businesses and community organizations.
Dinner Dessert Sponsor - Thank you, Lee Chaix McDonough
Not only is Lee our organization’s president, she’s also a successful business coach, author, and podcast host!
You can learn more about her #1 Amazon Bestselling book, ACT On Your Business: Braving the storms of entrepreneurship and creating success through meaning, mindset, and mindfulness, at https://actonyourbusiness.com.
And if you’re looking for a new podcast to binge, check out Work Your Inner Wisdom at https://playpodca.st/innerwisdom. Every week, Lee examines how to blend the spiritual with the practical to create sustainable businesses and fulfilling lives. Listen and subscribe today!
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Be sure to welcome our newest members at our next meeting!
Jennifer Bertling, Graceful Tables Linen Rental and Event Planning
Kristen Berton, Smile Labs of New Bern
Melanie Burrier, Lifeplus Foundation
Elizabeth Hartman, Edward Jones
Trista Laborn, A Purpose Driven Wife
Holly Parker, ParkerLane Integrative Health
Mary Sanders, VA Department of Taxation
Kathy Sciorra, Neuse Realty, Inc.
Chrissie White, Nautical Wheelers
Lori Worley, Weyerhaeuser Company
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Two New Board Members and a Baby!
It's a pleasure to welcome two new members to the CWF Board of Directors. Trista Laborn will join our Publicity Team and Chrissie White is our new Special Events Coordinator. Thank you, ladies, for stepping up to serve.
Join us as we send warm congratulations to CWF Board Member Adrienne Earle as she and her family welcomed Baby Eliza! We've been advised that Mom, Baby and Family are all doing well. The world's a better place for Eliza's arrival!
There's a Workbook, Too?
YES! Now, there’s a workbook to go with You Can Make a Living at That? The ultimate guide to thinking BIG for your small business. (If you are a Kindle Unlimited subscriber, you can read the book for free.) The book provides the basic information for getting your business up and running while the workbook reinforces the lessons and becomes a ready reference guide. This combination could be just what you need to have a stellar 4th quarter.
But there’s more! The NC Community College Small Business Centers are again offering classes for entrepreneurs interested in starting or expanding their business. Jane Maulucci will be presenting two classes: Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes -Identifying and Managing Change on September 19 and But, I Hate Sales – A sales process for non-sales folks on October 24. Both classes run from 2-5 p.m. and are sponsored by the Beaufort SBC. For more information: firstname.lastname@example.org
September is Summer's Sunset
The weather is still lovely, but days are noticeably shorter and you may not have enough time to get Rex out for his daily romp. Pets thrive when they have a routine and they become uncomfortable when things get out of kilter. Without enough exercise, your pet may become antsy or overweight. Let Crockett’s Critter Care provide the playtime and wandering walk your pets need to keep them healthy and your home happy. Crockett’s pet professional will come to your home, on your schedule, to provide exercise and playtime, snuggles and snacks, and the kindness your fur baby craves when you’re not available.
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Hope everyone has enjoyed summertime fun with family and friends! Welcome back to school and hopefully cooler days. Give me a call to set up that much needed Massage Therapy Session. Monthly Massage Therapy is essential to overall good health.
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The New Bern Historical Society Lunch & learn presentations have been very popular recently, so much so that they sell out a month early! Don’t let that happen to you! Explore your hometown’s heritage with exciting lunch programs in September and October. September 11 will start with North Carolina’s Mystery Tribe – The Neusiok. These ancient people who lived here in Craven and Pamlico Counties and have disappeared without a trace – or have they?
October 10 brings Steve Tyson and his provocative story of The Last POW. Did you know there was a POW camp at Glenburnie Park during World War II? Steve will recreate that era and tell you the fascinating story of the last man who was held there.
All the Lunch & Learns are at the Chelsea Restaurant at 11:30 am. Be sure to get your reservations early. Call 252-638-8558 or make them online at www.NewBernHistorical.org/tickets.
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