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      President's Message - Lee Chaix McDonough

The Border Zone

As I mentioned in last month’s letter, Fall is an ideal time for new beginnings and fresh starts, which means setting new goals. I encouraged you to consider your values - what matters most to you - when creating these goals. When we link what we wish to accomplish with how we want to live our lives, we feel more connected, more grounded, and we’re more likely to succeed.

However, new goals means stretching outside of our comfort zone and trying new things. That can feel overwhelming, frustrating, and even scary. I’m facing those feelings myself as I prepare to launch my first ever virtual conference, the Clarity Summit, and my new membership site for coaches, Coach with Clarity┬«.

I’ve never coordinated a major online event like the Clarity Summit before, nor have I run an online membership program. I’m walking the thin line between feeling confident in myself and my abilities, and wondering if I have what it takes to make this all work.

I suspect those of you who working towards your big dreams also know this place well. I call it the Border Zone – the area between the Land of Opportunity, where anything and everything is possible, and the Land of Overwhelm, where fear takes over.

The key sign I’m in the Border Zone is restlessness – a pervasive, low-level, frenetic energy that stays with me throughout the day. Typically, I notice it and press on. But this morning, I tried something different – maybe even a little out there – and the results were amazing.

I picked up a pen and started free writing, asking restlessness what it wanted me to know. I wrote for less than five minutes, but that was enough time for restlessness to share ten tips for navigating the Border Zone and taking on an audacious goal. They are:

  1. Slow down. You are right on time for your life, and you don’t have to accomplish everything today.
  2. Find your center. Overwhelm can pull you off course, so take a moment to reconnect with yourself and your purpose.
  3. Hold fast to your vision. Be clear about what exists for you at the end of your goal. Visualize it and let it guide your actions.
  4. Don’t lose sight of what matters. That big vision you have is anchored in your deepest values. Let those values guide you – not the overwhelm.
  5. Choose three things. Those are your non-negotiables for the day. Do those three things. Everything else is bonus.
  6. Say no to say yes. You have to say no to the wrong things in order to say yes to the right ones.
  7. Rely on your support team. There are people in your life who love you and want to help you. Let them.
  8. Take care of yourself. You cannot pour into others’ cups if you let your pitcher run dry. Fill your pitcher.
  9. Trust the process. Everything is unfolding as it is meant to. You’re on the right path.
  10. YOU are your own best resource. You already have everything you need to create what you want. Don’t doubt yourself. Go do it.

As you continue to work towards your dreams, I hope you find these ten tips helpful and inspiring. Let me know which one particularly speaks to you. 

You got this.



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