May 2017 Newsletter

  • 21 Apr 2017 6:35 PM
    Message # 4768517

    May is time to honor the important women in our lives, including ourselves!  Join us for dinner on May 2 at the Chelsea and for lunch on May 17 at NBGCC to learn how "Who do you know?" and "NO!" work for us.

    May 2017 Newsletter

    President's Message
    Jane H. Maulucci

    May I...?

    When we were kids there was a game called “Mother, may I...?” where whomever was “Mother” would grant, adjust, or reject your request to move forward on the playing field. The point of the game was to create suspense while having the contestants move awkwardly with baby steps, regular steps, or giant steps toward (and sometimes away from) their goal. This is a case of sport imitating life.

    When you come up with a new idea or goal, there is always an internal conversation. It might be just a millisecond or it can last months and years as you try to move forward. Simple things like selecting your breakfast beverage don’t need a huge amount of consulting, but tackling something personally or professionally that is outside of your cozy life box will start the chatter.

    “Mother” may answer with encouragement or disdain. She may question your ability to achieve this new goal or wonder why such a thing is necessary. She may insist that you immediately take giant steps only to be followed by a holding pattern of baby steps that keep you inches from your goal. Or she may even deny you the opportunity entirely.

    However, unlike the kids on the playground, you don’t have to listen to her. You can use your selective hearing to find the words and means that will spur you on while assessing the value of the concerns and options “Mother” may raise.

    As Mother Nature refreshes the landscape in May we are invigorated to tackle new things. So if you get an urge to make a change or start an adventure, you don’t have to ask “Mother, may I?”— just do your happy dance and go for it.

    This month we have two speakers who focus on the end result. At the Chelsea for dinner on May 2, Elizabeth Wood will talk about how “Who Do You Know...?” changed her life. Then at the New Bern Golf and Country Club luncheon on May 19, Eileen Nonemaker will teach us the power of “No!” While you’re sitting with your tablemates ask them how “know” and “no” may have played a part in their success.



    May 2 CWF Dinner at the Chelsea - Networking 5:30  Dinner 6 pm

    SPEAKER: Elizabeth Wood, Immigration Attorney
    “Who Do You Know?” Will Change Your Life

    In this instance, “Who Do You Know?” helped CWF member Elizabeth Wood and her husband, John, adopt their four children. Elizabeth will share her story of this powerful tool and how it can change your life.

    And we announce the first recipient of our updated scholarship program to benefit an adult female student at Craven Community College. This year’s recipient will receive a $2,000 scholarship and a membership to CWF as an opportunity to build her professional network. It will be a fabulous evening of networking, encouragement and support!


    May 17  Luncheon at the NBG&CC - Networking 11:30  Lunch 12 Noon

    SPEAKER:  Eileen Nonemaker, Paradigm Associates
    You CAN say "NO!"

    We, as women, are brought up to be nurturing and helpful.  We often worry more about others then we do ourselves.  This in turn causes us to say "yes" to things;things we should not really be involved in. But, how do we say "no" if it's not in our vocabulary? Join us as we hear Eileen offer us tips on the why and when of saying "no", as well as saying "no" nicely, professionally and without guilt.  (However, you have to say YES to coming to the meeting to hear her!)




    Jane Maulucci,The Reactive Voice is our May Dinner Dessert Sponsor. She delivers words that make cents as a content developer and trainer for small business soft skills. On May 8 she'll be offering Passionate Presentations at the City Laundry this 3 week workshop is for people who want to achieve their personal or professional goals by becoming better speakers. 



    Let's give a big thank you to Nelda Coats of Resource Financial Services, Inc. for being our May Luncheon Dessert Sponsor.  With over 25 years in financial services, Nelda is passionate about helping you achieve your dream of home ownership.  Contact Nelda at 252-639-1616 for all your mortgage or refinancing needs.  



    We have four new members since our last newsletter.  Please welcome:  Brittany Cahoon, Lisa Edwards, Laura Gorham, and Kaiy Smith-Biesmann.  Remember to say hello when you see them at the next CWF event. At last count we had a total of 198 active members!

    If your profile is missing a picture you are missing out on making connections with all the other CWF members. Sure, we wear name tags, hand out our cards, and are captivating conversationalists, but many of us have lousy memories except for faces. Help yourself and your CWF sisters by getting your photo up with your profile.

    In keeping with our literacy charity this year, our annual Hat Social theme is: "Who Do You Literally Love?" You get to select a favorite character or book from a variety of literary genres to represent in your fabulous chapeau! Here are the categories: 

    Favorite Villain – So bad you rooted for her or him.
    Favorite Childhood Book/Character – This story or character was your imagination's inspiration!
    Favorite Romance Character/Book – This is could be a bodice buster or a prim tale of longtime sweethearts.
    Favorite Mystery Book/Character This one kept you guessing and you resisted turning to the last page to find out who done it!
    Favorite Historical Book/Character
    – Factual or fictional, this is a story that had you time traveling and still sticks with you.
    Favorite Non-Fiction Book – It could be your favorite humorist  or your well worn cookbook, a serious collection of poems or a spiritual guide to life, this is your go-to book.

    Remember, the Hat Social is FREE for members in good standing, $23 for all visitors and guests and it will be on THURSDAY, June 8 at the New Bern Golf and Country Club. Start your imagination now!




    With spring here and summer upon us already, it is a great time to think about your business. Are you accomplishing all you want? Do you have enough time to do what you want to do? Is your business growing as much as you want it to? It may be that you need administrative support to take the load off - delegate those tasks that take your time and energy but are not revenue generating. These include scheduling your social media posts, entering client information into your database or CRM or helping to streamline your work by learning new productivity processes. Start this season with some heat and get ensured your business is HOT! Call or email today and we can talk about ways Structured Chaos can support you in doing what you love to do, not what you don’t. (252) 665-3424 or


    RELAX... MEDITATE.........

    Would you like to start your day inspired and motivated? We know how helpful meditation is in keeping us focused and better able to manage our challenges but sometimes it is difficult to maintain a daily practice. I invite you to learn more about the Haven of Relaxation where​you can access over 50 Guided Meditations to help you transform your looping thoughts and improve your sleep.

    My newly created Meditation Cards have beautiful photography, inspiring quotes and excerpts from the scripts of my meditations. Each card has a companion meditation at Please visit my site and view the video I made which introduces you to these cards. The Meditation cards are great gifts and free shipping is extended until June 15. For additional information contact Glenda Cedarleaf.



    I would love to introduce you to Ruby Ribbon and show you how you can truly say "Bye-bye-bra" and "Hello comfort and smooth clothes"!  As a Ruby Ribbon Stylist I enjoy the look on my customer's face when they step into their first Cami!  It's comfortable, non-roll, back smoothing, waist slimming, and moisture wicking!  We also offer wardrobe basics with smoothing secrets  ( fabulous slimming leggings) and we will be launching Swimwear next month!  I offer trunk shows in boutiques, spas and salons as well in-home.  I also offer Individual Personal Styling Appointments or you plus a few!

    Connect with me and take the cami challenge!   252-266-4422  Laura Gorham, Your Ruby Ribbon Stylist



    I’ve loved animals since I was a child. My parents and trainers taught me: 

    • “Hands mean only kindness.”
    • “Training develops a strong bond with your dog.”
    • "Consistency, patience and practice will always show through to the judge.”

    These traits are critical and are why we say, “Where your critters count!” Crockett’s Critter Care can enrich your pet’s day with a dog walk while you are at work or a vacation sit when you are away. Happy Pet, Happy Home.

    Jeanne Crockett is a certified pet sitter through Pet Sitters International, trained in Pet First Aid/CPR, insured and bonded, background check passed and is the first Certified Fear Free Professional in New Bern. More information about Crockett’s Critter Care can be found at or call Jeanne directly at (252) 635-2655.



    Put some pep into your step this Spring!   Call and schedule your much needed Massage Therapy Session! Two Decades in business! NC Licensed, Board Certified with NCTMB and a member of the AMTA.

    Elise A. Medenbach, LMBT
    Massage Therapy
    Glenburnie Professional Center
    1425 South Glenburnie Road,Suite 6
    New Bern  252 474-6118



    Whether you own a business, serve on a nonprofit board or guide an agency, planning is on your "to do" list. An essential component of any planning process is a partner document - an Action Plan.  That guides how and when do we do what we need to do to be successful.   

    But how you develop strategic (or business) plans with management action plans may be a struggle.  It's hard to develop plans when the business or management of the nonprofit or agency is a 24/7 responsibility.

    I offer my expertise as one who developed and implemented communication and marketing plans for small businesses, and was a successful leader of local, national and international nonprofits. 

    Contact me.  Let's have a conversation about your goals and what assistance you need to move forward. It's not "brain surgery", but planning is important to you.  And, I'm here to help.



    MACsimizing Miracles. Tuesday evenings 7:15-8:15 pm starting on April 25th @ The Yoga Mac, 2500 Trent Road, New Bern, NC. Cost for the 4-week workshop is $45. Sign up at

    This workshop is an exploration of how a simple shift in your perception away from fear towards love can lead to miraculous transformations inside and out. Each week, supplemented by guided meditations and in-class journaling, we'll use the lessons from “A Course in Miracles” as prompts for self-reflection and a candid discussion on how to practically apply these theories to your life.  

    We’ll explore the limiting beliefs that might be blocking you from what you most desire- whether that be more loving relationships, healthier habits, more opportunities, deeper fulfillment or all of the above. You’ll also be guided on how to fearlessly step into your authenticity and become a magnet for love and abundance.  Contact Michelle Pascetta for additional information.



    “If our men are all drawn off and we should be attacked, you would find a Race of Amazons in America.” Abigail Adams, 1776.

    Warrior Women is an original theater piece revealing the challenges of being female active duty military. The multi-talented Angelique Richelle Pinkston and Michelle Sims, confront their power and vulnerability by telling their stories through dance, song, and words. The piece was conceived and directed by Wendy Osserman who choreographed it in collaboration with the performers. Performances are May 15 and 16, 7:30 pm, Orringer Auditorium, Craven Community College, New Bern. Suitable for teens and up.  Admission $20/$10 military & students. Tickets: Bank of the Arts, 317 Middle St. New Bern, 252-638-2577 or through the Lifetime Learning Center,  Craven Community College , Brock Administration Bldg. Suite 100, (252) 633-2618 for details. Warrior Women is presented in partnership with the Lifetime Learning Center. Jane Maulucci – Stage Manager




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CWF Newsletters

“Nothing happens until someone sells something.”

~Attributed to Henry Ford

President's Message

Nelda Coats

Charting a New Course!

Like it or not, no matter what your title is, you’re selling something. Some of us are literally selling services or goods. Others may be promoting a non-profit and encouraging people to donate or volunteer. No matter what your role is within an organization, good customer service is vital to keep people coming back. An essential part of growing a business or non-profit is attracting new customers, volunteers and donors. The first word in Coastal Women’s Forum’s tagline is “Networking”. Whether you joined CWF to specifically find new customers or just to meet new women, networking describes how this is done.

I have belonged to many networking organizations during my career – from loose groups who met for breakfast once a month to more formal weekly networking groups such as BNI (Business Networking International). With formal groups, there is a stated structure and exact procedures to follow to get to know other members of the group and to provide referrals to each other. Referrals given and received are tracked, tallied and reported on. While this is not emphasized within CWF, I think we can learn some lessons from these groups on how to network.

First and foremost, we all are a center of influence. We have friends, families, and co-workers that we interact with daily. When we are asked for advice or recommendations for service, who do we recommend? Generally, someone whose service we have used or someone we know who performs that service. As members of Coastal Women’s Forum, we have at our fingertips over 120 women who are resources for many goods and services and represent non-profit organizations. Aside from just checking the directory, how do we confidently recommend our sisters?

There’s another old saying in sales that folks have to “know you, like you and trust you.” And it begins with “know you.” I would like to encourage you to get to know your fellow members in CWF beyond sitting together at our daytime and evening meetings. In BNI we were expected to participate in “one-on-one’s”. These were meetings outside the group meetings between two members. We even had suggested questions to ask each other to facilitate learning all about each other and our businesses. What could happen if you made a commitment to ask one person to coffee that you met at CWF? What if you met with one person a month? At the least you’d learn more about each other, you might even gain some new business, or even better, you may make a new friend.

In January, our program coordinators have designed our meetings around Getting to Know You so that you will have an opportunity to learn more about your CWF sisters. Besides being a lot of fun, we’ll learn more about each other and I encourage you to be on the lookout for someone that you just might want to get to know a bit better!

Let’s have coffee,

Upcoming Events


As Coastal Women’s Forum continues Charting a New Course, we’ll start the new year by getting to know our sister travelers!

Coastal Women’s Forum will celebrate 2022 with Getting to Know You networking programs in January. We have welcomed several new members this program year and many of our members have embarked on new paths since they joined the Forum. The January daytime and evening meetings will feature different networking activities and provide the opportunity to get to know our Coastal Women’s Forum sisters a little better. 

Please plan to join in these fun celebrations. The meetings will also be great opportunities to welcome guests and introduce them to our wonderful Coastal Women’s Forum sisters! We look forward to seeing you in January for the beginning of a great 2022!

Dessert Sponsors

"Miss Julia' Hart

RE/MAX Homestead



Thank you to our January Evening Meeting Dessert Sponsor, "Miss Julia" Hart, of RE/MAX Homestead.



Thank you to our January Daytime Meeting Dessert Sponsor, Georgiana Bowman Bircher, of Edward Jones!

Georgiana Bowman Bircher

Edward Jones

Updated Meal Cancellation Policy 

  • If you made a reservation and cannot attend, please CANCEL your reservation for either evening or daytime meetings.
  • Cancellations for monthly evening meetings should be no later than noon on the Sunday before the evening meeting. Email
  • Cancellations for monthly daytime meetings should be made no later than noon on the Monday before the lunch meeting. Email
  • If cancellations are not received by these deadlines, you will be responsible to cover the cost of your meal.
  • Please note the difference in emails.
  • While masks are not required, their use is greatly encouraged and appreciated.

Thank you, all!


Welcome New Members:

Shannon Adcock - United Bank

Anne Griggs - The French Bee Events

Christina Howerin - Farmasi & Park Lane Jewelry

Eileen Paxton

Margaret Pollock - Christ Church, New Bern

Member News


Wishing you a Winter Wonderland this Christmas Season!

All the Best,

Elise A. Medenbach, LMBT #327 Massage Therapy

Tyson Professional Center

1425 South Glenburnie Road, Suite 6

New Bern, NC 28560

252 474-6118

Martha Smith Massaad

Become healthier with your product choices for your home & body. When you take care of YOU; it helps the environment. When you help the environment; it helps YOU.

Find out about ingredients....some are really bad. I help busy professionals become more responsible for their self-care and health by teaching them about their lifestyle choices and the impact it has on their health. The bonus is when you transform your health, you become more people and planet friendly.

Call Martha at 252.269.5171 for a no obligation review of your pantry, bathroom and kitchen products.

There is one thing that matters & that is YOUR health"

Saha - to your health

Martha Smith Massaad 


Local Authors and Books

  • Nada Behr (Children) - We Want a Dog
  • Kim Rice Smith (Christian Literature) - The Heart of a Warrior
  • A.J. Clements (Historical Fiction) - Avonvale
  • Kyre Smith (Personal Development) - Unpopular Beliefs: Everyday Issues
  • Mellanie Crouell (Neo Soul) - 25 Days of Roses
  • Stanley Trice ( Young Adult Sci-Fi) - High School Rocket Science
  • Les Pendleton (Fiction) - The Bridges at Union Point
  • Todd Wetherington (Short Stories) - Savages
  • John Scirica (Murder/Thriller/ESP) - Deadly Dreams
  • Candace Williams (Japanese Historical) - The Earthquake Doll

Have lunch with an author!

Learn about their book as they speak for a few minutes. Autographed copies of the books will be available for purchase.

Proceeds to benefit STEM Scholarships at Craven Community College.

Local Authors Luncheon


January 15, 2022,

at 11:30 AM


The Chelsea Restaurant

sponsored by:

$30 ticket

($12 tax deductible)

Tickets available at the Next Chapter Book & Art Store (Downtown New Bern) or by calling (252) 637-9499 or (252) 633-1931.


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