October 2018 Newsletter

  • 21 Sep 2018 7:29 AM
    Message # 6685903

    October 2018 Newsletter

    A special note ... I know many of us have suffered much loss from this horrible hurricane. As we clean up our homes and properties and put our lives back together, we will call upon each other for support and encouragement. The Coastal Women’s Forum is a group of strong women who have tackled many challenges. We will survive this one as well.  Please let us know how we can help you!    E.N.

    President's Message

    Eileen Nonemaker

     Friendship: Celebrating the Differences

    We all know how important friends are to our daily lives. We normally make friends through some type of common ground, a similarity that puts us in the same place at the same time.

    My husband, Rob and I recently made a trip North and visited long-time friends in Maryland and New Jersey. These included a fellow art major from college, a former student, teachers that taught in the same school, fellow boaters, former clients and business associates, as well as previous neighbors. For Rob it also included a lifelong family friend, whose son’s wedding was our final destination.

    The common ground for these long-time friends for the most part has either disappeared or changed. I am no longer in college or teaching art, but these friends and I have made an effort to stay in touch and share what’s new in our lives. Our lives are very different due to political affiliations, children, grandchildren, pets, extended travels, and present location, but we have all stayed connected.

    I have relocated twice, moving from New Jersey to Maryland’s Eastern Shore and now Eastern North Carolina. When it comes to previous neighbors, much of the common ground is just that, the same neighborhood. In a new neighborhood we look to meet people who share walking a dog, boating, or a fondness for a certain restaurant. We like to be with folks who are like us…it makes us most comfortable.

    With a lifelong friend or even family member things change with the loss of a parent or sibling, marriage of a child or the birth of a grandchild. Relocation makes it more difficult to share those experiences, but when that familial bond is important, we make the connection happen.

    Fortunately, staying in touch is easier than it used to be with cell phones, email, texting, and often social media. To me the interesting concept is that we enjoy the differences in our present lives and look forward to sharing photos and funny stories about similar times past.

    This recent trip made me think about the new friends we have made since moving South. We have lots of common ground – swim classes at the YMCA, The Chamber, Habitat for Humanity, the Arts Council, and especially CWF. Interestingly the folks we have met in these organizations are very different from us. Everyone has come here from a different part of the country, from very different careers, and many from the military, having lived all over the world.

    It has been exciting to hear new stories and gain different perspectives from the various experiences that brought us all to the same geography. We enjoy, celebrate, and respect the differences in our old friends, as well as in our new ones. Life would be very boring, if everyone were the same in all ways!

    When you attend CWF events, you have the opportunity to expand your personal and professional connections. At the next meeting, make a point of reaching out to someone you have yet to meet. Who knows what you may have in common!



    Tuesday, October 2 at 5:30 p.m.   Dinner at the Chelsea-CANCELLED DUE TO HURRICANE RECOVERY.  Take good care out there.  Let us know how we can help you.

    The Mind Body Connection 

    Leann Wilson, River City Massage, will illustrate the mechanics of our bodies and how the muscles work together.

    She will show us how the muscles are all connected and show that when we are not connected with our bodies, it directly reflects everything else in our lives. She will share her observations and demonstrate how connecting the dots to learn what we are doing to our bodies, impacts how we feel.  Making small changes can make a big difference in our overall well-being.

    Wednesday, October 17 at 11:30 a.m. Lunch at the NBG&CC

    Connecting the Dots for Business in New Bern

    New Bern is a vibrant destination. The retail, commercial and housing sectors are growing. What aspects of the community must connect to promote growth and help the area prosper? How can we as New Bernians support new businesses? New Bern is a relatively small community, of approximately 30,000 people, but we have so many amenities and strengths that elevate the community to compete on the next level with larger locales.  But what truly makes New Bern unique are the people.  New Bern is poised for a bright future and is implementing plans to provide better opportunities to its residents on a variety of levels. Learn how you can be a part of our successful, smart growth at our September lunch meeting.  Amanda Ohlensehlen is the Community & Economic Development Manager for the City of New Bern and will share an update on the City's recovery and future projects. 



    Dinner Dessert Sponsor-Thank you, Leann Wilson!  

    Wow!  A great presentation and dessert too!  Our thanks to Leann Wilson of River City Massage and Wellness.  Their goal is to provide professional, affordable and effective massage that ministers to the body, mind and spirit of their clients.  Contact Leann at (252) 636-2661.

    Lunch Dessert Sponsor-Thank you, Kayla Schippert!

    Kayla Schippert

    Pampered Chef Independent Consultant

    Make cooking easier and more enjoyable! Like Schippert's Pampered Chef on Facebook for updates on the latest products and specials.


    Kayla Schippert   910-389-9561





    Since we're businesswomen ... Let's get the word out.  The U.S. Small Business Administration provides disaster loans and business counseling for people and businesses affected by Hurricane Florence.  Go to www.sba.gov for details.  Click on disaster assistance to find the assistance center in your county.


    New Members

    Lori Ann Harker

    Jennifer Whitson


    We are working to provide refunds for those who pre-paid for our cancelled September lunch.  Thanks for your patience. 


    Did You Know?


    Okay, so it was just underwater, but did you know that Council Bluff is the site near the foot of today's Broad Street at East Front Street where local Indians of the Village Chattawka assembled around a fire to hold council on tribal affairs?  Baron Christopher deGraffenried purchased from the Indians this fork of land between the Neuse and Trent Rivers for his New Bern settlement, and it was probably at Council Bluff that the land transaction was sealed with an elaborate ceremony described by the baron in his memoirs.

    Council Bluff Green honors the memory of the Chattawka people who first lived here and the Swiss and German Palatine settlers who established New Bern on the banks of these rivers in 1710.                                       Credit:  Susan Moffat-Thomas



    Now More Than Ever

    Craven County Clean Sweep sponsors four annual clean up events on the first Saturdays of February, May, August and October to help keep New Bern streets and waterways free of litter.  The upcoming one will be Saturday, October 6th, but if that day is not convenient, you can choose another day that fits your schedule!

    It’s your choice to help out in any of these ways: by walking along the streets in your own neighborhood; by using your boat to clean up a waterway; by meeting with others at Lawson Creek Park on that Saturday at 9am to be assigned a spot or by simply picking any other “trashy” area that’s been bothering you.  The amount of time you spend on this is totally up to you – it can be 15 minutes or a few hours.  Bags will be provided.  The bags will, also, be picked up where you leave them so you do not have to carry them to another spot!  For more information, call 633-1477.


    You Know You Have Them

    My Travel Agent LLC, as part of the New Bern Travel Coalition, has been collecting luggage for foster kids. The month of August we collected book bags for the kids.  We are now collecting toiletries. We need soap, shampoo, toothbrushes, deodorant  and toothpaste. Please call me and I will come to your office and pick up  your donations. Please tell your coworkers! Yes, there is always a need for suitcases and we will always continue to collect them. Thank you to some many of the CWF sisters who have made this project a success. I can be reached at 638-4134, travelto@suddenlink.net .

     Anita English

    My Travel Agent






    Got the Sniffles?

    Cold and Flu Treatment.  Here are some research-based prevention tips:

    • Wash your hands with soap and water.  Use Clear defense hand sanitizer (has vitamin E oil, black walnut oil and Tea tree oil)
    • Disinfect surfaces with Sol-U-Guard Botanical.
    • Avoid touching your face. Take Activate Immune Complex. Only use 3 out of 4 weeks per month.
    • Supplement with Peak Performance Nutrition Pack which contains Florify, an immune protecting probiotic.
    • Supplement with Vitamin D3 and K2-D3
    • Get seven to eight hours of sleep.
    • Diffuse Armour and Vapor essential oils
    • Apply pain-a trate to your temples if you have a headache
    • Drink lots of water 

    Transform your health with planet & people friendly products.  Ask your Wellness Planner, Martha S. Massaad for a complimentary healthyhome make-over.  Contact Martha at 252.269.5171 or martha@riseradiantlywithmartha.com


    Travel Talk Planned – October 25

    Join us for our last Travel Talk of the year on Thursday, October 25 from 4:30 – 6:30 pm - second floor Conference room at the O'Marks building located in downtown New Bern.  Please join us to hear about some of our 2019 and 2020 Group Tour Itineraries including Italy by Rail (April 2019), Great Canyonlands & Vegas (September, 2019), National Parks of the Southwest, (October, 2019), the Alaska Iditarod Race (March, 2020), Austria & Germany (September, 2020), and so much more! Light refreshments will be served (free event) RSVP to rose@countrytraveltours.com.

    As a full-service Travel Agency, we can help you with all your travel needs.  Call or visit us today 252-631-1003 - 233 Middle Street, Suite 109 in the O’Marks Building in Historic Downtown New Bern. Please stop by to say hello! Office hours are now 8 am to 4 pm.


    Spooky Puppy

    The doorbell rings and you find ghosts and goblins gathered on your doorstep. You know what to expect, but your pets can be startled and upset by these strange goings on. Crockett’s Critter Care can help take the jumps and jitters away from your young pet with their Fear Free techniques. They also know how to keep senior pets calm and comfortable when their world gets disrupted because you’re not available.

    Fluffy and Rex can count on Jeanne’s team of professional pet sitters for that extra bit of attention, a regular playtime, or a daily stroll to joyfully keep their routine in place.

    Jeanne Crockett’s team is bonded and insured which means you are hiring trained professionals to care for your beloved pet whether furry, feathered, or finned. For Fear Free professional pet sitting and dog walking go to crockettscrittercare.com, contact Jeanne by email or call her at 252.635.2655.


    Fall in Love with Your Skin

    September brings thoughts of school supplies, after school events, and lots of homework for those with children. As the new seasons begins, it’s also time to evaluate our skin care routine. Going from a hot summer day with a high humidity to cooler days and nights requires adjustment in our physical wardrobe.   

    Why not sit with a beauty consultant and find out what’s best for your skin type? Since you already wash your face in the morning and night, why not try the #1 skin care products, and get information from a trained professional?. You may just fall in love!

    This month, I am contributing a portion of my profit to the Coastal Women’s Shelter. After attending their Zumbathon, I am most convinced of their needs. Please feel free to contact me. Miriam Monroe, Consultant Mary Kay, Inc. 848-448-2522 www.marykay.com/mmonroe1


    Saying Goodbye to a Loved One’s Belongings

    The decision about what to do with items left behind is by far one of the hardest things to deal with after losing someone.  Many ask the question, when should I start to clean and organize his/her personal belongings’? And the answer is very simple –when you are ready! Some start the process when they decide to sell their home and others wake up one morning and say today is the day.  Be kind to yourself while cleaning out the closets – take your time, and do not let yourself be overwhelmed. Give yourself time to cherish the memories. When you are ready to start – I can help create a project timeline that works best for you and guide you through the sorting and donation process. 

    Check my blog at www.efficiencyninja.com for further assistance or contact Linda at 252-288-4467.   It may be many months before you are emotionally ready to tackle the project. The amount of time needed between the death and an ability to decide what to do with the belongings varies based on so many factors, including the relationship of the loss.  Don’t let others judge you for how long (or short) the time-period is before you feel ready to take on this task.

    I can support and help you with this important and difficult step of the grieving process. I'll share tips to help smooth the process, and hopefully create order and harmony during a stressful, heartbreaking time.


    Calling Dr. McDreamy

    For the 28th year, New Bern Historical Society is readying one of New Bern’s most magical annual family-friendly events and the Historical Society’s biggest fundraiser – Ghostwalk!  October 25-27, this year’s Ghostwalk theme, Graves’ Anatomy, brings tales of medicine, mystery and mayhem!   A whole new batch of characters will appear from New Bern’s colorful past to tell you their stories in historic downtown locations.  You’ll meet local surgeons, nurses who spy on the side, and maybe even a snake oil salesman.  Stroll through Cedar Grove Cemetery and a very realistic Civil War hospital.  Be sure to try yummy Ghostwalk meals and snacks at historic downtown churches.  New this year -- with your ticket, a free greenscreen photo booth with a special Ghostwalk background. You’ll get a free souvenir photo and digital image and get help posting your special memories to social media. Tickets on sale mid-Sep at ghostwalknewbern.com.


    A Cuppa Joe and a Helping Hand

    Like coffee? Try Habitat for Humanity of Craven County’s “Home Brew Coffee”* available for purchase! Your choice of Dark, Medium, or Light roasts (ground or whole bean) at $12/bag, with Habitat receiving a percentage of each bag sold. Purchases can be made at the Habitat ReStore, 930 Pollock Street, Wednesday through Saturday, 9:00 to 5:00, but we recommend placing your order by Monday mornings for delivery of your fresh-roasted selection on Wednesdays. Contact Deedra Durocher for details and order form at ddurocher@cravencountyhabitat.org – 252-633-9599 (w), 252-670-1907(c)

     *Habitat is pleased to work with Croakertown Coffee Company for our fresh-roasted coffees. Decaf is available upon request.



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    cwfnewsletter@gmail.com along with a jpeg or png
    by the 10th of the month for the next newsletter!

    Last modified: 27 Sep 2018 3:46 PM | Jeanette Paschal


CWF Newsletters

“Nothing happens until someone sells something.”

~Attributed to Henry Ford

President's Message

Nelda Coats

Charting a New Course!

Like it or not, no matter what your title is, you’re selling something. Some of us are literally selling services or goods. Others may be promoting a non-profit and encouraging people to donate or volunteer. No matter what your role is within an organization, good customer service is vital to keep people coming back. An essential part of growing a business or non-profit is attracting new customers, volunteers and donors. The first word in Coastal Women’s Forum’s tagline is “Networking”. Whether you joined CWF to specifically find new customers or just to meet new women, networking describes how this is done.

I have belonged to many networking organizations during my career – from loose groups who met for breakfast once a month to more formal weekly networking groups such as BNI (Business Networking International). With formal groups, there is a stated structure and exact procedures to follow to get to know other members of the group and to provide referrals to each other. Referrals given and received are tracked, tallied and reported on. While this is not emphasized within CWF, I think we can learn some lessons from these groups on how to network.

First and foremost, we all are a center of influence. We have friends, families, and co-workers that we interact with daily. When we are asked for advice or recommendations for service, who do we recommend? Generally, someone whose service we have used or someone we know who performs that service. As members of Coastal Women’s Forum, we have at our fingertips over 120 women who are resources for many goods and services and represent non-profit organizations. Aside from just checking the directory, how do we confidently recommend our sisters?

There’s another old saying in sales that folks have to “know you, like you and trust you.” And it begins with “know you.” I would like to encourage you to get to know your fellow members in CWF beyond sitting together at our daytime and evening meetings. In BNI we were expected to participate in “one-on-one’s”. These were meetings outside the group meetings between two members. We even had suggested questions to ask each other to facilitate learning all about each other and our businesses. What could happen if you made a commitment to ask one person to coffee that you met at CWF? What if you met with one person a month? At the least you’d learn more about each other, you might even gain some new business, or even better, you may make a new friend.

In January, our program coordinators have designed our meetings around Getting to Know You so that you will have an opportunity to learn more about your CWF sisters. Besides being a lot of fun, we’ll learn more about each other and I encourage you to be on the lookout for someone that you just might want to get to know a bit better!

Let’s have coffee,

Upcoming Events


As Coastal Women’s Forum continues Charting a New Course, we’ll start the new year by getting to know our sister travelers!

Coastal Women’s Forum will celebrate 2022 with Getting to Know You networking programs in January. We have welcomed several new members this program year and many of our members have embarked on new paths since they joined the Forum. The January daytime and evening meetings will feature different networking activities and provide the opportunity to get to know our Coastal Women’s Forum sisters a little better. 

Please plan to join in these fun celebrations. The meetings will also be great opportunities to welcome guests and introduce them to our wonderful Coastal Women’s Forum sisters! We look forward to seeing you in January for the beginning of a great 2022!

Dessert Sponsors

"Miss Julia' Hart

RE/MAX Homestead



Thank you to our January Evening Meeting Dessert Sponsor, "Miss Julia" Hart, of RE/MAX Homestead.



Thank you to our January Daytime Meeting Dessert Sponsor, Georgiana Bowman Bircher, of Edward Jones!

Georgiana Bowman Bircher

Edward Jones

Updated Meal Cancellation Policy 

  • If you made a reservation and cannot attend, please CANCEL your reservation for either evening or daytime meetings.
  • Cancellations for monthly evening meetings should be no later than noon on the Sunday before the evening meeting. Email cwfdinner@gmail.com
  • Cancellations for monthly daytime meetings should be made no later than noon on the Monday before the lunch meeting. Email  cwflunch@gmail.com.
  • If cancellations are not received by these deadlines, you will be responsible to cover the cost of your meal.
  • Please note the difference in emails.
  • While masks are not required, their use is greatly encouraged and appreciated.

Thank you, all!


Welcome New Members:

Shannon Adcock - United Bank

Anne Griggs - The French Bee Events

Christina Howerin - Farmasi & Park Lane Jewelry

Eileen Paxton

Margaret Pollock - Christ Church, New Bern

Member News


Wishing you a Winter Wonderland this Christmas Season!

All the Best,

Elise A. Medenbach, LMBT #327 Massage Therapy

Tyson Professional Center

1425 South Glenburnie Road, Suite 6

New Bern, NC 28560


252 474-6118

Martha Smith Massaad

Become healthier with your product choices for your home & body. When you take care of YOU; it helps the environment. When you help the environment; it helps YOU.

Find out about ingredients....some are really bad. I help busy professionals become more responsible for their self-care and health by teaching them about their lifestyle choices and the impact it has on their health. The bonus is when you transform your health, you become more people and planet friendly.

Call Martha at 252.269.5171 for a no obligation review of your pantry, bathroom and kitchen products.

There is one thing that matters & that is YOUR health"

Saha - to your health

Martha Smith Massaad



Local Authors and Books

  • Nada Behr (Children) - We Want a Dog
  • Kim Rice Smith (Christian Literature) - The Heart of a Warrior
  • A.J. Clements (Historical Fiction) - Avonvale
  • Kyre Smith (Personal Development) - Unpopular Beliefs: Everyday Issues
  • Mellanie Crouell (Neo Soul) - 25 Days of Roses
  • Stanley Trice ( Young Adult Sci-Fi) - High School Rocket Science
  • Les Pendleton (Fiction) - The Bridges at Union Point
  • Todd Wetherington (Short Stories) - Savages
  • John Scirica (Murder/Thriller/ESP) - Deadly Dreams
  • Candace Williams (Japanese Historical) - The Earthquake Doll

Have lunch with an author!

Learn about their book as they speak for a few minutes. Autographed copies of the books will be available for purchase.

Proceeds to benefit STEM Scholarships at Craven Community College.

Local Authors Luncheon


January 15, 2022,

at 11:30 AM


The Chelsea Restaurant

sponsored by:

$30 ticket

($12 tax deductible)

Tickets available at the Next Chapter Book & Art Store (Downtown New Bern) or by calling (252) 637-9499 or (252) 633-1931.


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